Why would a real estate agent ever talk you out of buying? The commission only arrives when you sign, so an agent who tells you to walk away is, on paper, working against herself.
I do it anyway, and I want to explain why, because this one habit is the closest thing I have to a philosophy.
Where does this come from?
Before I sold homes, I taught. I worked as an elementary school teacher and as an early childhood educator, and you cannot spend years in a classroom without it shaping how you treat people who depend on you.
A teacher does not rush a child past the part they do not understand. You slow down, you walk through it together, and you do not move on until the understanding is real.
When I became a realtor, I brought that method with me. We walk through every property and every document together. We learn together. If you do not understand what you are about to sign, my job is not done, no matter how late it is or how eager everyone else at the table may be.
I have been writing some version of this since 2006.
Why I stepped back on principle, and what changed
During the pandemic boom, I stepped back from active practice on purpose. The honest reason is that the market I left felt driven by greed, and greed does not want a teacher in the room. It wants someone to hurry the paperwork.
I came back because the mood changed. The clients I work with now are not greedy; they are afraid: of losing money, of problems they cannot see, of signing something they do not understand. A frightened person does not need a salesperson. They need protection.
That is work I know how to do, and I am glad to do it.
What does protection look like in practice?
Three habits. None of them is complicated.
- The investigation happens before the offer. The documents, the condition of the building, the questions nobody has asked yet. I would rather find the problem while you can still walk away freely than after you are committed.
- The walk-away advice that costs me money. When the answers are bad, I say so plainly, even though “do not buy this one” cancels my own commission. Your savings are not mine to gamble with.
- The plain-language explanation of every document. Nothing gets signed just because everyone is tired and wants to be done. You sign when you understand, not before.
Who is the villain here?
Nobody. In all my years of doing this work and writing about it, I have met very few bad people. Most sellers are honest, and most agents work hard for their clients.
What I protect my clients from is not a person. It is complexity: documents written for lawyers, risks that hide in places a busy buyer never thinks to look, decisions made under pressure. Complexity can hurt you without any villain behind it. You can be careful without being angry at anyone.
So that is the philosophy, and it fits in one sentence.
I would rather lose a commission than let you buy a trap.
It is not a slogan. It is the standard my clients hold me to, and the one I invite you to hold me to as well, starting with the first question you bring me.